Monday, September 22, 2008

About Erectile Dysfunction

Ni satu artikal yang disiarkan di dalam NST mengenai masalah lelaki dengan zakarnya. Erectile Dysfunction atau lebih dikenali sebagai mati pucuk. 

Some suffer in silence while others blame their partner. But if erectile dysfunction is left untreated, it could lead to bigger problems, including the break-up of a marriage, reports AUDREY VIJAINDREN

WITH the dimmed lights and the easy listening music playing in the background, the fire of passion burns like it should on any wedding night. 

The newly weds are eager to consummate their marriage, making sure the mood is just right. But the unthinkable happens, erectile dysfunction (ED) takes over the romance. 

Within minutes, the mood in the room has changed. In one corner, the bride questions her beauty and in the other, a groom tries to resurrect his pride and save his ego. 

This scene is not uncommon in many Malaysian bedrooms. Some occur on much anticipated wedding nights and others, in marriages that have been happy for more than 50 years. 

ED doesn't discriminate against age, race, or culture. It's estimated to affect one million Malaysian men. 

Also known as male impotence, ED is a sexual dysfunction characterised by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis. 

A recent survey showed that 40 per cent of Malaysian men in their 40s are suffering from ED. 

Across the globe, this ailment is predicted to affect more than 100 million men. This means one in every two men between the ages of 40 and 70 will be afflicted by this ailment.

But reported cases are just a small fraction of the larger problem. Researchers and medical practitioners tell the New Sunday Times that most Malaysian men with ED choose to suffer in silence, for fear of damaging their egos. 

Associate Professor Dr Quek Kia Fatt (below, left) of Monash University says a man suffering from ED often feels insecure about his masculinity and chooses to remain silent. 

"He will avoid touching his partner because he  starts to develop performance anxiety. The very thought that he could fail, affects his ego and pride. 

"In that situation, he doesn't see ED as a disease  like any other. 

"Eventually he will distance himself from his spouse. He will become grumpy, depressed and anxious. 

"This will cause tension between the couple and   put a strain on the marriage." 

One common issue among couples dealing with  ED, Dr Quek says, is the emotional strain put on  the woman. 

"The man tends to withdraw emotionally and physically because of the fear of failure. 

"The partner then starts to believe that her husband is losing interest in her or that she is no longer attractive to him. 

"This makes the woman feel inadequate, contributing to rejection, loneliness and depression. 

"The woman may also worry that her partner may be impotent with her, but not with other women, thus making her think about betrayal and infidelity." 

He says failure to talk about ED with your spouse could threaten the marriage. 

Besides the emotional effects, ED is also shown to affect women physically. According to Dr Quek, penetration is shown to contribute to 25 per cent of women reaching climax.

 

In recent years, researches have discovered that the magic blue pill is not only a solution to a man's sexual health, but also a determining factor of a woman's performance in bed. 

A recent study published in the New England Journal of Sexual Medicine concluded that women's sexual function improvements co-related significantly and consistently to treatment improvements in men's erectile function. 

"The most fascinating aspect of this study is that the women in the study were untreated and yet their physiology changed. 

"Think about this for one minute. These are the first ever data that shows physiologic changes in lubrication, orgasm and arousal in an individual who was not treated," says its lead author and director of San Diego Sexual Medicine, Dr Irwin Goldstein (above, right). 

The landmark research showed that the physiological changes in sexual function of one partner in the marriage (the untreated woman) were significantly linked to the physiological changes in sexual function of the partner (the treated man). 

Dr Goldstein says because ED affects both parties, it should not go untreated. 

"If you're married, you're supposed to enjoy each other. In the context of marriage, sex is not dirty. 

"It used to be only about making babies and reproduction, but now it's about quality of life. 

"People are living longer and enjoying more fulfilling lives, in all aspects. Why not also in their marriage?" 

He says the myth that any form of sexual medicine is only about sex should be debunked. 

"Sexual medicine and its benefits is about medicine, it's not just about sex. 

"ED may be a harbinger of more serious vascular diseases. 

"Having a healthy sex life also increases confidence and self-esteem for both the husband and the wife. It strengthens the relationship between the two." 

Although a magic pink pill for women is not far from becoming a reality, he says, husbands should take the lead in providing a healthy sex life for their spouse. 

While this may be true for most marriages, consultant urologist Dr Peter Ng Eng Pin says some wives prefer not to wake the "sleeping giant". 

"Sadly, the attitude of some wives is not encouraging. Some are happy when their spouses have premature ejaculation because it means they have done their duty for the day. 

"Some are even under the wrong perception that if their husband sought help for ED, he would be prone to having affairs. 

"It's a big culture problem that discourage some husbands with ED to seek professional help. So, in the end, it's an uphill battle for the ED patient." 

He says pride and ego are also factors that prevent couples from enjoying a healthy sex life. 

"Many men come to see me and expect to be given a quick remedy. It's not as if a pill is going to solve all your problems. 

"There needs to be counselling and therapy for complete healing. 

"Couples have to talk things out, separately and together with a qualified person. 

"ED is a serious problem that could make or break a marriage."

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Tentang Onani

Ramai yang mengatakan bahawa hampir semua lelaki melakukan onani dalam hidupnya berbanding wanita yang kurang melakukannya. Onani adalah satu cara untuk melempiaskan nafsu syahwat dengan meransang alat kelamin sehingga inzal mani. Proses bagi lelaki mengeluarkan air maninya dengan cara melakukan onani adalah sama kaedahnya dengan melakukan persetubuhan iaitu mengeselkan kepala zakar sehingga menimbulkan kegelian dan akhirnya terpancut air mani. Dalam persetubuhan dengan isteri juga kepala zakar bergesel dengan bahagian dalam faraj isteri sehingga menimbulkan rasa geli dan akhirnya air mani terpancut.

Ramai orang juga memperkatakan tentang kesan melakukan onani khususnya oleh lelaki di usia muda tetapi belum ada kajian saintifik yang mengesahkannya (setakat yang saya tahu). Ada yang mengatakan tidak menjejaskan kesihatan dan tidak kurang juga yang mengatakan sebaliknya. Antara kesan yang dikaitkan dengan tabiat melakukan onani ialah mata rabun, sakit pinggang, hilang selera seks melalui persetubuhan normal, mati pucuk dan sebagainya.

Disamping itu pakar seks pula mencadangkan lelaki mengamalkan lakuan onani untuk mendapatkan kesan tahan lama. Ini kerana apabila seseorang itu melakukan onani dia dapat belajar dan mengetahui tahap ketahanan zakarnya dari terpancutnya air mani. Kaedah yang disyorkan ialah teknik start-stop. Seseorang itu akan melancap dan apabila hendak terpancut, dia mengenggam bahagian batang zakarnya berhampiran kepala agar air mani tidak terpancut.

Saya ada membaca dalam sebuah website tentang kesan melakukan onani di waktu usia muda. Kisahnya begini.

Halim (nama samaran) baru 5 bulan mendirikan rumahtangga bersama pasangannya yang telah dicintainya selama 3 tahun. Mereka tinggal di Klang, Selangor. Mereka amat bahagia sekali sehinggalah pada 2 bulan kebelakangan ini.

Halim telah menelefon kami untuk berjumpa untuk membeli Maxifirm. Semasa berhubung beliau ingin sangat berjumpa kami untuk mendapatkan maklumat dan kepastian mengenai kehebatan produk ini. Seperti yang telah dijanjikan, beliau datang ke pejabat kami pada hari Sabtu jam 11:30 pagi. Beliau nampak segak dan berbadan tegap. Tak hairanlah kalau ramai wanita tertarik kepadanya.

Beliau menceritakan masalahnya kepada kami. Beliau baru berkahwin selama 5 bulan. Sejak malam pertama lagi ‘senjata' nya tidak berupaya untuk menahan pancutan air mani dari keluar lebih dari 3 minit. Beliau mudah terangsang. Apabila mula bersama, zakarnya mampu untuk ereksi dan beliau seperti biasa bercumbu sebelum penetrasi. Tetapi apabila telah menghunuskan ‘senjata'nya itu, tak sampai 3 minit air mani sudah keluar. Bermacam cara telah dicuba, tetapi masih belum ada yang serasi.

Setelah terbaca mengenai maxifirm dalam sebuah majalah beliau menghubungu kami. Kami bertanya adakah masa lampaunya suka beronani. Beliau berkata memang dari remaja belasan tahun lagi beliau suka beronani. “Pantang lihat gambar wanita seksi, mesti ‘buat' punya” katanya. Oleh kerana selalu beronani, jadi rangsangan seksnya menjadi cepat sama seperti waktu onani dahulu. Tidak dapat dinafikan, bagi remaja yang selalu beronani akan menghadapi masalah ejakulasi pra matang ini. Beliau sekarang sudah banyak kali bergaduh dengan isterinya.

Setelah lebih kurang 3 bulan melayari bahtera perkahwinan, isterinya menjadi terlalu negatif dan mudah naik angin. Kadang-kadang, hanya kerana silap sedikit boleh menjadi pergaduhan besar terutama selepas ‘bersama' . Isteri ada menyuarakan tidak puas apabila ‘bersama' kepada beliau. Tetapi belum jumpa penawarnya. Kami pun menceritakan mengenai fungsi dan kelebihan produk Maxifirm supaya dapat membantu masalah yang beliau hadapi. Setelah beliau faham dan yakin beliau telah membeli sekotak Maxifirm.

Dua minggu telah berlalu tiba-tiba ofis kami telah dihubungi oleh Halim. Nadanya amat gembira sekali. Beliau menceritakan setelah memakainya untuk kali ketiga barulah ia dapat merasa kesannya. Zakarnya menjadi lebih tegap dan beliau mampu untuk mencapai klimaks selepas isterinya. Isterinya amat gembira dan menyarankan Halim supaya memakainya setiap kali bersama. “Saya dah jadi lelaki sejati bang, tiada lagi isteri kata badan je muscle tapi yang bawah lemah, lama tu boleh tahan” katanya gembira megakhiri perbualan.

Friday, February 29, 2008

Reference For Fun in Singapore

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Saunas In Singapore

This posting consists of information from the internet.

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  • Blue Heaven
      2 Jln Pinang (parking at Golden Landmark Hotel, sauna is 2 blocks away from the hotel and a half block from the Sultan Mosque), 6295-5668, email. Nearest MRT: Bugis (5 minute walk towards Sultan Mosque). This small and friendly neighborhood sauna attracts a steady stream of unpretentious guys of all ages and races. Internet café with free access, large steam room. Very hospitable staff. Nude night on Sun. Inexpensive and no membership fee required. Open daily.

  • CENTRAL BUSINESS DISTRICT


  • One Seven
      17 Upper Circular Rd (near the river, between Boat Quay and Clarke Quay), 6223-0017, email. Nearest MRT station is Clark Quay. Largest men's member sauna and fitness club in Singapore. Machine circuit, free weights, sauna, steam, swimming pool, and al fresco café. A huge fantasy-infused recreation area on 2/F surpasses most facilities in the region: gothic arched hallways, maze and cul de sacs, video theater, adjustable industrial lighting, portals, dens, view ports, and more. Broad spectrum of adult customers of all ages, races, and a notable lack of posers. Busy even on weekday afternoons! Ask for their "slightly larger" towel if you are a chub. 350+ attend their "go natural" nights on Fri. Mon is Popcorn and Movie Night. Tue is YMCA Night with S$1.70 entry for anyone under 22. Wed, show your tattoo at the door and get a $5. discount. Thu is Short Towel Night. Sat is Underwear Night. Lifetime membership costs S$10. Entry fee is additional.

  • 18A Hong Kong St, 6221-0367, SMS 9758-7514, email. Reception is located on 2/F after climbing up a flight of steps from the street level entrance. Bright red lockers are located at one end and the other leads to a narrow corridor for smokers. On 3/F you will find a very large cinema cum relaxation room, furnished with rows of mattresses and walls lined with large mirrors. At the rear of this room are two cubicles for those who prefer some privacy. Shower rooms are also found on this level. On 4/F a large high ceiling and rather dark room has been divided into two levels (a flight of stairs brings you to the upper level) and both are laid with mattresses for one-on-one or group fun. Outside, a simple maze leads you to either a rather narrow and small steam room or to more small rooms. Open 24 hours daily. Theme nights. No membership fee required.

      Comments from Utopians:

      "Shogun has improved by leaps and bounds. Staff are friendly and the crowd that comes here is generally mixed. Skin nights are well patronised and every one is here to have fun - no attitude. I wish there were a more interesting maze and intimate spaces. Highly recommended." -- deltapool, Nov 9, 2007 "Shogun has some new themes coming up like a fundoshi (Japanese loin cloth) night and Hxmen for the stocky or beefy guys." -- genewilly, Nov 2, 2007 "LED lights have been put up around dim corridors, dark room and stairs in dark areas to prevent accidents." -- AndrewWong, Sep 26, 2007 "ShoGun now boasts more space, better facilities and promises exciting experiences on three levels. The management should address some safety standards issues. For instance, an electrical socket was left uncovered at one end of the wall in the shower room. There are many stairs to climb in the dim corridors and dark rooms. Luminous markings on the steps could help prevent accidents. Tall guys could easily hit their head in the large dark room with the two levels." -- shy66guy, Sep 8, 2007 "Shogun is full of chubs and mature people. If you are into them then it's your place to be." -- jucavi, Jun 30, 2007
    CHINATOWN
    The Chinatown neighborhood is easy to navigate using our Utopia map:



    • Raw
        45 Ann Siang Road #02-02 (see map, up the hill from the Maxwell Food Centre), 6222-2252, email. One of Singapore's first gay saunas is located at the heart of Chinatown, a 5 minute walk from either the Tanjong Pagar or Chinatown MRT stations. New management in 2007 brought facility renovations and clean-up. This 4-story facility includes a gym, two steam rooms, rooftop garden jacuzzi, dark maze, smoking area, sun deck, rest area, TV lounge, free Net kiosks with games, movie room. Frequent theme parties. Crowd is a multi-racial mix of Malay, Indian, Chinese and international visitors. Open 24 hours. Utopia Member Discount

        Comments from Utopians:

        "Turned out to be quite nice, la. The guy at the counter is damn cute! True enough not much hunks...a very mixed blend of people, races and ages. But one thing I like about Raw is the homely feeling. Everyone is friendly here -- not so in other saunas." -- hotboi00, Dec 15, 2007 "New management - interior newly painted, friendly staff and the facilities, though not swanky, are equiped. A tad too dark though in the dark rooms. A first timer can get lost in there! Action galore (no pretenses) from the crowd consisting of EVERYONE - young, yuppies, old, tall, short, fat, thin, white, dark, fair, Malay, Chinese, Indian, farang (not many hunks though if u ask me). I left four hours later after two rounds of fun, a bowl of tom yam noodles and a backscrub." -- tzj, Dec 5, 2007 "This sauna is under new management. Their old 'lifetime' membership has now been replaced by an annual membership (S$20 for new membership or S$10 for a renewal). That said, they have made some much needed improvements. The showers are now OK. I prefer the outdoor rooftop shower myself - although it is cold, the weather is suitable for it. Some repainting and remodeling has occurred and I am told more is planned. A lot of the stored junk in the TV/Internet room is gone but only one computer terminal was working during my visit. Some of the gym equipment is back in working order. Best in the late afternoons, busy after 6pm. Weekends are even better. A selection of guys: Malay, Chinese, Indian, young and slim to chubs and everything in between. Something for everyone." -- cbc16, Sep 4, 2007
    • TEN Mens
        21 Tanjong Pagar Rd #03-01, (see map, one floor below Mox), 6327-8870. Enter from Murray St, behind Fairfield Methodist Church, and take the lift at the left hand side of Ya Kon coffee stall. Steam room, lots of private rooms, Big TV and relaxing area. Nice place with friendly staff.

        Comments from Utopians:

        "Just went to Ten Mens. While Thu is beef nite, it looked more like a chub nite." -- SiMpLy1981, Jan 9, 2008 "TEN Mens seems to have more of those beefy and muscular guys there on Sat and Thu nite. Younger people are going Wed, Thu, Fri and Sat. Chub and chaser types meet on Tue." -- comeon, Nov 4, 2007 "TEN Men's chub and chaser night is on Tue now. Fri has become a underwear night (not very happening)." -- genewilly, Nov 2, 2007 "Ten Mens is relatively inexpensive at S$16 per entry, but not as big as One Seven. It has only one floor. The private rooms have a mattress, tissue paper and a bin, and there is a condom in the locker (carry that one condom with you), but you must bring your own lube. I was here early Fri evening (4-7 pm), the crowd was mainly men in their mid 30-40s." -- yinghuantang, Sep 16, 2007 "A relatively new sauna in the heart of the city. TEN Mens is professionally run with courteous and friendly staff, from the reception to the maintainence group who frequently check on the state and cleanliness of the rooms, corridors, shower rooms and toilets. The huge TV lounge area is furnished with very comfortable leather sofas and a brilliant selection of gay Asian movies. There are many private rooms lined along a common dark corridor and they are equipped with adjustable light switches. The maze area is uncomplicated yet private. For those who enjoy group fun, there is a fairly large hall at the rear lined with comfortable mattresses. The shower area is large and you can choose public or private. The steam room also includes a rainfall section." -- shy66guy, Aug 18, 2007 "Just visited the place on Fri between 6-9pm. It's happening if you are a chub or beefy guy. They've just started a Bare-All Nite on Wed." -- genewilly, Jul 18, 2007
    • Y Club
        2/F 16A Smith St (see map, near South Bridge Rd), 6221-4690, email. The super friendly Y Club is the most affordable gay sauna in town and the atmosphere feels a bit like a gay family reunion with smiles all around. This small and homey space is comprised of three floors. Facilities and amenitites include a weight-training machine, jogging machine, Internet stations, 60-inch TV lounge, café, steam room, private rooms, small hot pool, dry sauna, and dark maze. They also aim to provide workshops on critical gay community information. Air in all corners purified with hydro air-filters, and antiseptic spray is provided in all private cabins. Crowd is all ages and races with lots of uncles, daddies and seniors in the mix. Utopia Member Discount

        Comments from Utopians:

        "Quite a few people there with a mixed clientele. But Y Club oversells itself on its website. It's small and cramped and rather unpleasantly smokey. And the 'spa pool' is a joke. However, at S$6 for entry you pay for what you get." -- bear4unz, Aug 23, 2007 "Y Club is basic and the crowd was mainly uncles when I visited. It seems to attract the kind of crowd who likes the S$6 entrance fee." -- yinghuantang, Sep 25, 2006 "Visited Y Club on my recent trip. Though small, it was a good choice. Located unassumingly along Smith St, there is only a small sign indicating the door. The guys during my visit were mostly Chinese uncles. The staff (2 of them) were very accommodating. The place is relatively clean, though the steam room at the end of the dressing area on 2/F was quite small." -- PINOY, Sep 18, 2006
      OTHER AREAS
    • Diamond (mixed)
        05-01 Sultan Plaza, 100 Jln Sultan Plaza (near junction with Beach Rd), 6392-2396, email. Facilities include sauna, steam, 2 large jacuzzis (with open view of shower area), pool, karaoke room, game machines, pool table, free Internet surfing, TV room, private cabins with dimming lights, dim cul de sacs, and a relaxing dim video theater with reclining lounges for snacks (yummy and free traditional desserts), coffee and tea. Mostly gay, but also attracts bisexual men (both masseur and masseuse are available here). Crowd is mature Chinese uncles to grandpas, beefy, bearish, masculine, working class and their admirers. Early bird (10am-1pm) and late night (7pm-11pm) special entry discounts. Very friendly!

      Sunday, February 3, 2008

      JAPANESE REAL LOVE DOLL

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      Thursday, January 17, 2008

      Crossdressing

      Dua keping gambar ini adalah merupakan lelaki yang berminat memakai pakaian wanita. Ia dikatakan sebagai satu fetish. Adakah anda mempunyai keinginan seperti ini?


      Sunday, December 30, 2007

      Selamat Datang Ke Dunia Lelaki

      Blog ini berkisar tentang lelaki. Dunia lelaki.